A little over a year ago, a good friend and colleague of mine, Tami Gulland of Angels for Success was staying at my house while we both attended the Margaret Lynch’s ‘Rockstars on a Mission’ event. Margaret has studied Debbie Ford’s shadow work and so a lot of the program was about integrating and owning the ‘dark side’ of ourselves and using that to find more power.
Tami was staying in the guest bedroom and went to the closet to put her clothes away. As she opened the door, she gasp! The entire closet was filled, literally overflowing with books. It contained my entire library of books by Caroline Myss, Wayne Dyer, Eckhart Tolle, Rumi, David Deida and the like.
“Why are all these amazing books in the closet, Mande?” Tami asked.
“My husband doesn’t want me to have them out where anyone can see them. So I have to hide them in here. He doesn’t want anyone to know that I need these self-help type of books.” I replied with a heap of shame and guilt.
Tami had such compassion for me and with such grace and humor offered me the opportunity to step fully into my power and acknowledge for myself and with him that all of this made me who I was. That all of my struggles and ‘imperfections’ and especially my FEELINGS were part of a normal human experience. I didn’t have to hide any of myself, like my books in my closet. That weekend was very transformational for me and started some very significant changes to unfold in my life.
Changes that allowed me to more fully integrate all the parts of who I am.
I have to admit I was afraid to start “putting it all out there”. Afraid that people would reject me. People who I had cared what they thought about me. But I held on to one important truth. Those who couldn’t love me for ALL of me didn’t really love me. And those who loved me no matter what were really SO much more fun to hang out with.
Today I share with you this story because I just got off the phone with a client who complimented me for how “authentic” and “transparent”. She said she had been afraid to really embrace social media (have have it be successful) because she would have to embrace the parts of herself that others said she couldn’t show. She shared with me that because I showed her a new way to be authentic that it felt like I gave her permission to fully integrate all the parts of herself that made her who she was – which just happened to be – spiritual and a redneck!
Just as Tami did with me last year, today I was able to serve my client in the same way and I wanted to offer that opportunity to you my loyal reader.
What parts of you are you afraid to let people know about you for fear they would reject you?
Could that ‘villian’ be the key to unlocking the super hero within you?
I’d LOVE to see your comments about the matter here or on my Facebook Page.
To Your Increased Online Visibility and Profitability,
P.S. Just in case I’m still being a little vague. I’m full on Woo! Woo! and proud of it! 🙂 BTW- that means spiritual and loving it!